What’s the Difference Between Elopements, Micro Weddings, and Intimate Weddings?
If you’ve recently started planning your wedding, you’ve probably noticed that the “big white wedding” isn’t the only option anymore. These days, couples are embracing celebrations that are smaller, more intentional, and tailored to reflect their personalities and values. In fact, phrases like elopement, micro wedding, and intimate wedding are popping up everywhere - but what do they actually mean?
While these styles of weddings share similarities, each one offers a unique way to celebrate your love. Let’s unpack the differences so you can find the option that feels most authentic to you.
Elopements
Once upon a time, an elopement meant running away in secret to marry without anyone’s knowledge. While that traditional definition still exists, the modern elopement has evolved into something far more intentional and romantic. Today, elopements are about stripping away the pressure, guest lists, and expectations, and focusing solely on the couple.
An elopement might be just the two of you, or you might bring along a celebrant and two witnesses. Some couples invite a handful of immediate family members, but it’s generally no more than ten people.
What makes elopements special?
Complete focus on the couple. The day is designed entirely around you, your love, and your story. No need to worry about your uncle’s third cousin snagging an invite.
Flexibility. You can marry at sunrise on a mountaintop, in a city registry office, or in your backyard - there are no rules.
Adventure. Elopements often lend themselves to destination-style ceremonies, whether that’s a far-flung international trip or a beautiful spot here in Queensland.
Example elopement: Imagine saying “I do” barefoot on a secluded beach at North Stradbroke Island, followed by a champagne picnic for two. So romantic!
Typical size: 2–10 people
Best for couples who: Want to focus solely on their love story, prefer non-traditional celebrations, or crave an adventurous setting.
Micro Weddings
If you love the idea of a traditional wedding but not the idea of hosting 100+ guests, a micro wedding might be perfect for you. A micro wedding offers all the elements of a standard wedding day - ceremony, reception, styling, a photographer, even speeches and dancing - but on a much smaller scale.
With around 20–40 guests, micro weddings allow you to celebrate with your very nearest and dearest without the overwhelm of a large-scale event. Because of the reduced guest list, couples often find they can invest more in styling, food, and experiences to make the day feel truly special. Keep in mind - many vendors have different definitions for ‘micro’ and pricing tiers will vary accordingly.
What makes micro weddings special?
Quality over quantity. You can focus on spoiling a smaller group of guests with beautiful touches like gourmet menus, statement florals, or live music.
Relaxed atmosphere. With fewer people to manage, micro weddings feel more intimate and less stressful.
Budget flexibility. While a micro wedding can certainly be luxe, it often allows couples to allocate their budget more intentionally and cut back on food and beverage spend.
Example micro wedding: Picture a long-table candlelit dinner under festoon lights in a garden, with 30 of your closest friends and family sharing heartfelt toasts late into the evening.
Typical size: 20–40 people
Best for couples who: Want the feel of a wedding day but without the guest list overwhelm.
Intimate Weddings
Intimate weddings sit somewhere between a micro wedding and a traditional one. Generally, they range between 40–60 guests, offering the best of both worlds: the full wedding experience with a more personal, connected atmosphere.
An intimate wedding often still includes many of the “big wedding” elements - a larger bridal party, live entertainment, multi-course meals, and detailed styling - but with the guest list pared back to those who truly matter.
What makes intimate weddings special?
A balanced guest list. Enough people to create atmosphere, but not so many that it feels impersonal.
All the trimmings. You can still enjoy a full day of traditions, from a grand entrance to a packed dance floor.
Deeper connections. With fewer guests, you actually get to spend quality time with most of them.
Example intimate wedding: A ceremony at a heritage-listed Brisbane venue followed by a dinner reception for 50 guests, with luxe table styling, a live band, and plenty of time for mingling.
Typical size: 40–60 people
Best for couples who: Want a celebration that still feels like a “ traditional wedding” but is more relaxed and personal.
Which One Is Right for You?
Choosing between an elopement, micro wedding, or intimate wedding comes down to your personalities, values, and vision for the day.
If you crave adventure, privacy, or simply don’t want the fuss, an elopement might be your perfect fit.
If you want the full wedding experience but on a smaller, more intentional scale, a micro wedding could be ideal.
If you love the idea of a wedding day with all the trimmings but prefer to keep your guest list manageable, an intimate wedding strikes a perfect balance.
The beauty of modern weddings is that there are no hard-and-fast rules. Whether it’s just the two of you or 70 of your closest friends, your day should feel like an authentic reflection of your love.
Your questions answered…
Is an elopement cheaper than a wedding?
Not always! While you’ll save on guest costs, many couples invest the money in photography, travel, and unique experiences to make their elopement unforgettable.
Can a micro wedding still have a dance floor and speeches?
Absolutely! A micro wedding has all the hallmarks of a traditional wedding - just with fewer guests.
How do I decide on the right size for us?
Start with your vision: do you picture a quiet, private celebration, or a lively dinner party with your closest friends? Once you know the feeling you want, the right option becomes clearer. A good starting point is my free priorities worksheet - get it here!
At Hitch Perfect, I help couples design celebrations of every size — from elopements to intimate weddings and everything in between. If you’re unsure which style suits you best, let’s chat about your vision and create a day that feels perfectly you.