Why It’s Okay to Not Love Wedding Planning (Even if You’re Excited to Get Married)

You’re engaged - congratulations! You’re in love, you’ve said yes to forever, and now you’re supposed to be basking in the glow of all things wedding… right?

But here’s the thing no one really tells you: you don’t have to love wedding planning just because you’re excited to get married. And if that’s how you’re feeling right now - overwhelmed, exhausted, a little bit guilty - you’re not alone.

As a wedding planner, I’ve worked with some incredible couples, and I can tell you with full confidence: so many of them start the process feeling lost, stressed, or even secretly dreading it. It’s okay if you’re one of them. Let’s talk about why.

The Pressure to Enjoy It All

From the moment you get engaged, the world starts sending you messages like:

• “You only do this once - enjoy every second!”

• “Planning your wedding should be the best time of your life!”

• “It’s all so exciting, right?”

And sometimes? It is exciting. But other times, it’s just… a LOT.

There’s a whole world of decisions to make; from guest lists to colour palettes, family politics to finances - and it can start feeling more like a part-time job than a joy-filled journey.

You’re Not Broken. The System Is Just... Overwhelming

Most people getting married today aren’t event planners. They’re regular humans with careers, families, social lives, and maybe even toddlers on their hips or pets chewing the corner of their mood boards.

The modern wedding industry is full of Pinterest-perfect inspiration, endless advice (good and bad), and Instagram feeds full of comparison traps. It’s easy to feel like you’re falling short before you’ve even started.

So if you’re feeling like:

• “This is too much.”

• “I’m not organised enough for this.”

• “Why does everyone else seem to be loving this?”

Please know: that’s not a flaw in you. That’s just a sign you’re human.

You Can Love Your Wedding and Still Struggle With the Planning

Here’s a truth I wish more couples were told: you can be wildly in love with your partner, excited about your marriage, and completely over wedding planning all at the same time.

They’re not mutually exclusive. Feeling burnt out by the logistics doesn’t mean you’re not thrilled to become a spouse. Crying over a seating chart doesn’t mean you’re not committed.

It just means you’re trying to pull off something big, personal, emotional - and often under a ton of pressure.

How to Take the Pressure Off

If this is resonating, here are a few small mindset shifts and strategies that might help:

1. You Don’t Have to Do It All Yourself

Whether you hire a wedding planner (hi, I’m here for you!) or just outsource a few elements, letting go of the idea that you have to juggle every detail yourself is a game-changer.

2. Let Go of ‘Perfect’

Your wedding doesn’t have to look like a styled shoot to be beautiful. It has to feel like you. That’s what people remember - how the day felt, not whether your napkins matched your invites.

3. Set Boundaries With Input

Your wedding is about the two of you. If opinions from others are starting to drown out your own voice, it’s okay to set gentle boundaries.

4. Build In Time for Just Being Engaged

Not everything has to be wedding-related. Go on a date and ban the “W” word. Be in love, not just in planning mode.

5. Talk to Someone Who Gets It

Whether it’s a planner, a recently married friend, or a Facebook group - sometimes it just helps to be reminded you’re not alone in feeling like this.

Final Thoughts

At Hitch Perfect, I believe wedding planning should feel exciting, yes - but also safe. Like you’re supported. Like you’re not carrying it all alone. Like you’re not drowning

So if you’re in a season where you’re not loving the planning part? That’s okay. You’re allowed to feel that way. And there’s help available when you’re ready.

Whether you need someone to take the reins, lighten the load, or just be your sounding board for an hour, I’m here to meet you where you are. No pressure, no perfectionism - just planning support that feels good.

You can love your person, your wedding, and still not love every spreadsheet along the way. That doesn’t make you a bad bride. It makes you human.